“But where are you really from?"

As a child growing up in Northern Ireland, I got this question daily - sometimes even several times a day. Even though my answer was always, "Here," it didn't seem to satisfy people. My Brown skin in a sea of White made me stand out, no matter how much I tried to blend into the background. It was a question that told me I didn't belong, wasn't like everyone else, and never would be. 

So, I made a decision and took action. Over 25 years ago, I decided that if I didn't have a satisfying answer, I would create a reality where I did - one that satisfied me. That decision pushed me to think about who I wanted to be, what my history could possibly become, without trying to be 'normal.' It encouraged me to take risks such as leaving my home country to live and work abroad. It led me to always stretch beyond my comfort zone. Now, I am 'from' the sum total of my experiences and learning. That once-irritating question took me on a journey to discover what truly made a life of meaning and purpose - I'm grateful.

For many years, that meaning and purpose came from my love of education. I taught kids, teens, and adults; I trained; I presented...and I never stopped learning. I continue that learning today through my doctoral studies focusing on Flourishing (Positive Psychology), Equity, and Education. I've unsurprisingly had many challenges along the way...not least in learning to accept myself as a perfectly flawed human being (just like everyone else). I practice self-forgiveness, self-appreciation, and how to let things go. It's a never-ending process, but the efforts so far have been transformational.

Fast-forward to today. I live in a place that is the manifestation of my idea of 'paradise' as a kid. I have a partner who I've been able to grow with to raise 3 energetic, challenging, and characterful children. My relationships are intentional, deep, and nourishing. I am clear about my values and feel no need to compromise on them. The most surprising thing of all? That although it was never my goal, following my passions and values has lead to a life of abundance in every way. Whether that's my upgraded perception or objective fact, it's time to pay it forward.

I believe everyone has the capacity to live a life full of gratitude, love, and flourishing - and yes, that includes YOU! Today, I am blessed to work with others to bring their dream lives to reality through coaching, mindfulness, and mentorship. Discover how we will work together to design the life you want. All it takes is the very first step.