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Say 'YES!' to flourishing

I am a inclusion-focused, international mental fitness coach who works with those in education to achieve balance, calm, and a sense of thriving. I help you overcome imposter syndrome, workaholism, and overwhelm so you can move from a life of 'Blah' to 'Aha!'  

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Tired of not knowing just how to get where you want to go? Would you love to feel deep gratitude every single day? By aligning your values & your goals, we ensure you maximise the chance of living the life you want.


Together, we use tried-and-tested techniques to remove all internal resistance to the changes you need for optimal health, wealth, and relationships. Change can be scary, but we make it easy...and fast!


Once you've designed the life you want, we move quickly toward implementing your plan so you can feel empowered. Move rapidly toward the life you dream of and enjoy every step of the journey!

I help you help yourself...



Focused sessions which make you the centre of attention. It's all about you as we clarify your personal or professional goals, clear all obstacles, and put it into action.


Video Call

Timezone or location different to mine? No problem! Schedule a 1-on-1 video call with me and we'll work out a plan that fits with your schedule.


Virtual Group

Join in with like-minded individuals for empathy, support, and celebrations as you move through your journey of transformation.

You Belong Here

Meet some people who've worked with me...

I work with Abena one-to-one. Abena is very effective at helping me clarify my goals and keeps me accountable to my plan of action. She is very knowledgeable and energetic. Her love of continuous learning is contagious as is her zest. Abena has been a positive and encouraging force in my life since we met.

Vanessa M

USA and Qatar

Pramal Lad

London, UK

After attending Abena’s group program, I am able to let go of small things that always bother me and move out of my comfort zone. I feel light as a feather. I now give myself more time to know me. I realised I was kind to others, but not to myself. Thanks Abena - you are our “ROCKSTAR!”

Diira M

Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia

Abena is a really talented coach for being able to bring me out of my comfort zone and have the clear mind to achieve my goals.

Her group coaching program helped me discover myself and prioritize the important matters in my life and career.

Her ways of conducting the sessions are truly enlightening, inspiring and reflecting in our next steps. I truly appreciate Abena for all she did for me.

Jessie Das

Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia

Among the many things I have accomplished since I began the coaching program with Abena, the most powerful is the mindset shift from feeling constantly overwhelmed to learning how to reprioritise what I can / cannot focus on at one single time. This change in attitude has helped me to appreciate the idea of “progress over perfection”. I am then able to break down lofty aspirations into a series of smaller, connected, and more manageable goals. This way, it is far easier for me to stay consistent and appreciate the celebration of milestones. Professionally, I also experience typical feelings of the impostor phenomenon and self-doubt. I can’t thank Abena enough for her help, be it her words of encouragement or the practical tools, in helping me realize that I can enjoy and appreciate my accomplishments (a product of the energy and effort I put into my goals) without shame. Because of this, I am also able to take a deep and honest look into my personal “why” and feel no guilt in participating in the sessions with whatever energy I may be feeling. I really appreciate how supportive and kind Abena has been, from the design of the coaching environment that exudes a feeling of psychological safety to her coaching approach which has been no less than absolutely inviting, empathetic and amazing.

Jye K


I LOVE our small group! I love listening and learning from others - especially from people I don't see every day.

I love being informally accountable for the baby steps I said I'd work on. I need that at the moment as I'm starting out.

Leeanne S

New Zealand & Malaysia

Abena was recommended to me by a friend at a time when I was really stuck. I didn't know exactly what I wanted, but I knew there had to be more to life. Everything was 'fine' and I knew I was luckier than many, but everything was just a bit flat and uninspiring. Working with Abena I was able to unlock a sense of direction and purpose. This has had an impact on so many areas - the relationship with my partner, finding a role I love at work, learning to forgive myself and be kinder to me (and others)...there are so many ways Abena has helped me I can't even list them all. I am so grateful to you Abena for coming into my life. Thank you for helping me see all I had inside!

Helen B


The 10-week program offered by Abena was truly life-changing. Abena is a knowledgeable and experienced facilitator who created a supportive and non-judgmental environment for all of us. The content of the workshop covered a wide range of topics related to boosting mental health, including stress management, self-care practices, and improving relationships. Abena used a variety of engaging activities, and one of the biggest highlights of the workshop was the emphasis on practical tools and actionable strategies. Abena encouraged us to apply what we learned in our daily lives and provided us with resources to continue our self-discovery journey. The atmosphere of the workshop was truly inspiring. Abena created a safe space where I felt comfortable sharing my thoughts and experiences with near-strangers I grew close to, and I loved the sense of community that was created among the participants. We had a safe space where we could be vulnerable and authentic. Overall, I highly recommend Abena’s well-being program to anyone looking to improve their mental health and live a more fulfilling life. We all came with very different priorities so, whether we struggled with a specific issue or simply wanted to be proactive towards a happier and healthier lifestyle, this program met our needs. Thank you Abena for providing such a valuable and life-changing experience.


China and Malaysia

Abena was an excellent fit for me as a life coach on multiple levels; mentally, emotionally, practical & solutions based and with regard to values. I started working with Abena at a period of great change in my life, finishing my first book, my adult daughter leaving home, moving house and living as a digital-nomad, and transitioning from being a teacher to becoming self-employed as a mentor, tutor and content creator.

Most of the time it was a case of Abena perceptively drawing out of me the resources that I already had but hadn't fully utilised, but at other times, when I was lacking specific tools or knowledge, Abena had the knowledge or tools that I needed and we were able to work through them in an effective manner.

Abena is also incredibly perceptive and has excellent emotional intelligence, she knows when to push deeper into things and when to allow me to work through the process with a more empathetic and intuitive approach.

Working with Abena has really helped me appreciate how much work I've done, how to work in alignment with myself and also how to more effectively organise myself for the work that is still to be done.

Alasdair Lord

UK and Thailand

About Me

“But where are you really from?"

As a child growing up in Northern Ireland, I got this question daily - sometimes even several times a day. Even though my answer was always, "Here," it didn't seem to satisfy people. My Brown skin in a sea of White made me stand out, no matter how much I tried to blend into the background. It was a question that told me I didn't belong, wasn't like everyone else, and never would be. 

So, I made a decision and took action. Over 25 years ago, I decided that if I didn't have a satisfying answer, I would create a reality where I did - one that satisfied me. That decision pushed me to think about who I wanted to be, what my history could possibly become, without trying to be 'normal.' It encouraged me to take risks such as leaving my home country to live and work abroad. It led me to always stretch beyond my comfort zone. Now, I am 'from' the sum total of my experiences and learning. That once-irritating question took me on a journey to discover what truly made a life of meaning and purpose - I'm grateful.

For many years, that meaning and purpose came from my love of education. I taught kids, teens, and adults; I trained; I presented...and I never stopped learning. I continue that learning today through my doctoral studies focusing on Flourishing (Positive Psychology), Equity, and Education. I've unsurprisingly had many challenges along the way...not least in learning to accept myself as a perfectly flawed human being (just like everyone else). I practice self-forgiveness, self-appreciation, and how to let things go. It's a never-ending process, but the efforts so far have been transformational.

Fast-forward to today. I have lived in places that were my idea of paradise as a teen. I have a partner who I've been able to grow with to raise 3 energetic, challenging, and characterful children. My relationships are intentional, deep, and nourishing. I am clear about my values and feel no need to compromise on them. The most surprising thing of all? That although it was never my goal, following my passions and values has lead to a life of abundance in every way. Whether that's my upgraded perception or objective fact, it's time to pay it forward.

I believe everyone has the capacity to live a life full of gratitude, love, and flourishing - and yes, that includes YOU! Today, I am grateful to work with others to bring their dream lives to reality through coaching. If you'd like to move into the life you want, all it takes is the very first step.

Take the First Step

Still not sure?

✔️ This IS for you if...

👉🏽 you are struggling with the demands of home and work life - it's all too much and there's no time to even think about how to get balance

👉🏽 you want to move forward but worry that you're not good enough to make it happen

👉🏽 you know you're not living the life you want

👉🏽 imposter syndrome gets in the way of you creating + striving for more in your life + career.

👉🏽 you talk yourself out of taking action towards your highest potential because you feel guilty for wanting more or 'should just be grateful' for what you already have

👉🏽 you fear that other people will judge you for changing your path so you settle into the safer option. 

👉🏽 you feel like change seems easy for others but not for you because [enter excuses here]

👉🏽 you tend to procrastinate, especially when it comes to your own wellbeing and progress

👉🏽 you lack a sense of direction about where your life is / could go

👉🏽 you don't feel excitement or passion when you consider the future

👉🏽 you are at a crossroads/transition and need clarity about possibilities and next steps

👉🏽 you have lots of limiting beliefs about yourself

👉🏽 you make plans but don't stick to them

👉🏽 you feel overwhelmed (and maybe exhausted) regularly

👉🏽 you are 'stuck' where you are and don't know how to move forward

👉🏽 you have dreams but can't see how they can become reality

👉🏽 you struggle to maintain an optimistic outlook

👉🏽 you are willing to put effort into creating your best life

👉🏽 you are ready to stop making excuses about why you just can’t move forward

🎉 I can't wait to work together with your awesome attitude, determination, and bravery! 🎉

❌ This is NOT for you if...

👉🏽 you believe someone else (not you) or your situation is the biggest influence in your life satisfaction

👉🏽 you know you would really rather live in dissatisfaction than take brave and challenging steps toward your best life - it's not always easy!

👉🏽 you consider yourself to be the victim of circumstances rather than the creator of your own reality

👉🏽 you recognise that the story you're telling yourself, no matter how untrue, is the one you want to hold on to

👉🏽 you prefer to hold on to pride, anger, and hurt rather than move out of your comfort zone to change

👉🏽 you consider yourself to be the victim of circumstances rather than the creator of your own reality

👉🏽 you intend to continue making excuses and finding reasons to not take action

You may not be ready for this type of transformational change yet, but I believe the time will come. Why not read through some of my posts and consider coming back when you are ready? You will always be welcome. 🤗 Click here to access the blog.

Say 'YES!' to thriving

I am a DEIB-focused, international mental fitness coach who works with those in education to achieve balance, calm, and a sense of thriving. I help you overcome imposter syndrome, workaholism, and overwhelm so you can move from a life of 'Blah' to 'Aha!'  

Show Me How

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